I'm such a girl.
When you have a problem, even if it's the tiniest issue, how many people do you call about it? Maybe you start with your sister, then call your best friend, then call your other best friend, then your circle of close friends, and then consult your therapist before finally deciding how you feel about the situation and what to do.
I don't know why we do that; maybe we just need to talk about it enough to get over it. Or we need to take all our friends' advice and pick the best one to use. But I realized something as I listened to one of the friends on my Call List give me what I thought was bad advice: Nobody knows the situation better than you do.
My friend meant well, and I can see why she said what she did. If the issue was a generic one, her advice would've been great. But it's not; I was telling her about people she doesn't know, so how could she know what to say? I listened, but told her that's not the way to deal with it. We decided to agree to disagree, and moved on to another topic.
I thought about it after we hung up. Why did I even have to ask what she thought? I always think my friends know me better than I do (and a lot of times, they do), but they don't know everyone in my life. Sometimes, you have to just figure things out on your own. Realize that only you know exactly what happened and how you feel.
Put on your big girl panties and deal with it! And while you should listen to close friends' opinions, don't take anyone's advice but your own. And mine.
Sometimes I have to consult Cosmo and Glamour.
